I'm Seeking a Private Detective

My attorney says that Larry stands a good chance of getting joint custody - in spite of the drug addiction. Courts love a decorated cop apparently. A bruised and shattered wife gets nothing!

Well, I have to protect myself and Victoria and that means I need Larry's dark side out in the open where it can be discussed with the judge.

I've short-listed a number of private investigators and I think this lady, Lauren Ortega (I like the idea of having a female private eye on my side!) could be the one.

But I want her to prove to me she has what it takes. That's fair, right?

The only snag is that she's without an assistant and I've told her she must find a capable person if she's to get the gig. If you're interested in being an assistant private eye, email me with "I'm Helping Lauren" in the Subject line and I'll we'll take it from there.

When your husband cheats on you with his job!

Nobody understands what it's like to have your husband cheats on you - not with a woman but worse, his job!

Having to go to bed on your own every night, having to learn how to use a gun "to protect myself", having him remember the anniversary of a gangland killing but not your wedding anniversary!

Apparently being a cop is more important to him than his wife and daughter.

My husband's first mistress is his job as an SFDP homicide inspector.

My husband's second wife is his pills.

I could deal with him two-timing me with his job, but not the pills. That was the last straw for me and I divorced him.

Larry and I have an amazing, beautiful, talented daughter called Victoria and despite his problems, he's been good in that regard. He never misses a child support payment or alimony check. But he thinks this entitles him to preferential treatment.


Maybe he got a bad visitation deal in court but he's lucky he got what he did! You don't turn up to a court hearing in clothes you've been sleeping in for two days and pupils as big as black holes.

The divorce was four years ago and I wish I could say Larry has gotten his life together, but he hasn't. He's just got better at coping with his drug problem.

He wants joint custody now. No way. Not while he's hooked on pills and not in front of our daughter.

Author James Patterson's new Facebook game

This looks really interesting. Even though Larry is sure to say "that would never happen"! LOL

It's Been a Little Quiet

Ok ok I know I said I was read to wash my dirty laundry in public but I kinda got cold feet a little :)

And a little busy... it's the holiday season so I've been wrapping presents and watching Victoria eat Hersey's Kisses while I suffer the Cabbage Soup Diet so I'll be able to fit my sexy black number for New Years Eve!

I have started to get the hang of Twitter though... I think I'll use twitter to share my nonsense thoughts and use this blog just to document the custody process and "my life with Larry" expose.

Don't know if anyone's tried this site before? The lady started following me on twitter - it looks like something I need! LOL  http://escapefromrelationshiphell.com/

Oh, here's my Twitter thingy http://twitter.com/married2sfpd

ps. I'm going to make an Angry Birds cake LOL And while dieting!

A Cop's Wife Blog

I’m starting this blog so that I can get my thoughts out.  I hope what I have to say will help other cop wives. And maybe other woman married to the badge will share their stories and experiences too. 

If you've ever had to leave a store in a hurry because your husband saw someone he'd arrested or you're always late for social events then this blog is for you. But I guess it's also for me.

So here goes... 10-12.